I decided to write to this post in hopes there were more parents out there like me.  I, myself am straight, but my son is gay.  I have known this for most of his childhood.  It was just a matter of time for him to figure it out for himself.  When he reached high school, everything changed.  He was finally figuring out who he was and what he wanted to be.  

Being a parent of a gay son never came with an instruction manual.  And in turn, being gay never came with an instructions either.  We just had to figure it out as we went along.  He still hasn't been able to tell some of the family members how he feels in fear that they would disown him.  On his dad's side though (were divorced), they took the news and blew it way out of portion.  His dad rushes him to his preacher, trying to preach the gay out of him (I was so pissed).  This made him feel worse about himself.  He was already feeling like an outcast that this little stunt made things worse.    

But I had other plans for my son.  Not only is he gay, he enjoys putting on make-up.  On one of our trips to Wal-Mart he asked if he could get a couple things.  So, we put together one of his first make-up kits. With the help from his cousin who lives in Denver, they spent the day trying it out and experimenting.  I have never seen his so happy, and a better self-esteem.

I don't think of myself as a mother of a gay son.  I think of myself as a mother period.  I want my son to be happy and enjoy being who he wants to be.  But this world can be cruel, and it kills me that I can't protect him from everything that will cause him pain.  

The reason why, I took this Queer Theory course is because I wanted to understand.  There are so many things that I don't know, but I am willing to understand.

The only advice I would give to another parent is don't forget to Love.  Love who they are and who they are growing up to be.